Gotta say, I think you’re looking at it from the wrong direction there. The benefit of a connected vehicle is it gets continuously improved. They don’t disable stuff, they enable it. The legacy manufacturers approach of only giving you new stuff with a new vehicle seems absolutely absurd after living with constant updates.
Could you imagine if you bought a phone and it didn’t receive any updates? Security or otherwise. Old people might be happy with that, but that would be a hell no from me.
The feeling of getting a notification on your phone for a new car update is awesome. Every month or two I get new features which I would otherwise have to either buy a new car for or buy some third party product. It’s a night and day different customer experience.