A bit of a weird (and personal) topic but seeing how this is a general chat, why the hell not.
First off, this is not a whining/crying/asking-for-compassion thread. It’s more of a poll of opinions to see what people think (and hopefully suggest). I’m sure most of the people on here either have girlfriends/boyfriends, are happily married or are about to become such but that only makes them more competent in answering the question so please don’t be shy!
I’ve been single for quite a while now (for far too long would probably be a better definition). I’ve tried, as it feels, everything - I’ve been on dating websites, tried going out with friends and/or was hoping to find someone at a workplace but I’m yet to succeed.
Dating websites are pointless, mainly because I’m not the type of guy that women look at and go “Ohh, he’s hot”. I’m an ordinary person, no better, no worse. As it’s all based on the very first impression on these types of websites I’ve probably been overlooked in the favour of more “outstanding” specimen that know how to present themselves in a certain way. Doesn’t matter what I wrote in my profile I never even got a single reply from anyone I wrote to (or anyone else for that matter). Trust me, I wasn’t sending pictures of my dong to the girls or writing anything pervy, exactly the opposite. Maybe I should be rude and disrespectful to women? I hope not.
Going out with friends didn’t yield any results either. Firstly, I don’t have too many of them and secondly, if it was a night out we usually ended up in a pub with us all standing around, having a banter. As you all know, in those situations you don’t really go around hitting on girls at other tables. I am also not a fan of clubbing as I don’t think you can find yourself a partner for life in places where people go to get drunk.
Lastly, workplaces… Same thing really. Even though I’m contracting and tend to work for 2, 3 or 4 companies a year, I’ve not managed to find the one at any of them. Not sure why. Probably partially because it’s not really about finding your soulmate when you’re at a place where you’re being paid to do work and, secondly, I guess I just haven’t met anyone that I’d fall in love from the first sight.
I guess, being introvert and relatively shy doesn’t help the situation either, does it. It sometimes feels like everyone else finds it so easy to date and get married, yet whenever I try doing the same nothing works.
What do you see as a “solution”? Where do people find their other halves in this modern day and age where people chat more than talk? Any good websites to try?
I’m pretty sure there are loads of single girls/women just like me, searching for someone else (maybe even here! :Whistling:). I’m just not sure what else to try.