It’s a great post Sue. I can relate to many parts of what you’ve said about the non physical effects of an incident like this and we all need to keep this in mind when we make decisions whilst driving or riding.
My ex was nearly killed (4 crushed vertebrae, 6 ribs, left tibia at right angles [saved by the pin from the last accident, luckily it bent rather than snap!] etc) by someone who turned right across their crossed their path on and 2 lane piece of straight rural A road… 47 minute wait for an ambulance, thankfully the local GP provide some pain relief in the interim.
Mind you I didn’t find out for over a week as they were in intensive care as it was all a bit complex… let’s just say that I was in effect the ‘bit on the side’ :crazy: it was complicated!
Anyhow the effect on family, kids, and me was profound. Luckily there was no brain injury so we didn’t have that to contend with… mind you some of what was said whilst under the influence of morphine was bad enough! The second bit of luck is that one of the kids who had wanted to go on the back that morning (with gear) was left at home.
In this case the driver was prosecuted, but to be frank that did nothing to address the anger that my ex still to this day feels towards the driver.
Anyway, it was a profoundly emotional time and I sincerely wish you, Si and the Kids the best of luck in moving on from it. Whilst things will never be the same again it’s important to be thankful and as Si’s banner says these things make us all stronger.
We both still ride but I have to admit that I am profoundly aware of my mortality… so if I move over to let you filter between the cement mixer and the tipper lorry at 40 mph don’t think ill of me 
